What the Heck Does It Mean to Date Your Hubby?

Although I'm fairly certain the phrase is catching on, I thought I should share what I mean by "dating my husband". The hubs and I were married for 11 years before Abigail came along. We had lots of alone time. Lots of sleep in time. Vacation time. Time in general. Then, came this precious girl who we adore beyond belief. She is a sweet, funny little time sucking machine. I wouldn't change it for the world. But, we all know that kids change things. 
I think it's important to set aside time to spend just with your hubby. It's more than letting him know you still love him. It's about reminding yourself why you still love him. When you spend time together doing anything you see each other clearly again. 
Some people have date nights once a week, once a month...whatever works for you! My hubby has a new job keeping him busy, as well as ministry that we are both involved in so date night is not as frequent as I'd like. Here are some things that we try to do:
1. Schedule it. Just like you would a doctor's appointment. Keep that appointment or there will be penalties in time. 
2. Put your phone down. This is hard for us to do, I'm not gonna lie. We have those darn cell phones glued to our fingers and eyes. But, I want him to know he is more important to me than this text or that game or Facebook even! Because he is.
3. Alternate on who plans the date. That way you are both getting to do things you love to do. Unless, of course, you love to do the same things all the time...not likely in my opinion but I could be wrong!
4. Try to talk about something other than bills, kids, or work. There have been nights where we didn't stick to this and the evening was just another stress. That's the last thing you need!
5. If you can, try to have a night away from the kids every once in a while. A whole night. One night where you don't have to worry about someone walking in your bedroom. One night where you can stay up late with your honey without fear of having to wake up early. 
These are just things that we try to do. Would you add or take away any of these? 

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